Ways I supported myself through an anxiety flare up

How do you support yourself when going through a challenging time?

• Do you throw yourself into work/ your business?

• Do you suppress the niggles asking you to slow down?

• Do you suppress your emotions?

• Are you reactive towards partners and/or kids?

• Do you withdraw and give your partner the silent treatment?

• Or perhaps you disassociate?

REMINDER! You are NOT alone. We all get caught up in situations that make us uncomfortable and bring A LOT up for us. So if you answered yes to any of these look at it through a lens of compassion.

However, the above is not a way to live. 

I use to suppress, react and disassociate until I learned about our body’s nervous system, how stress get stuck in our body, generational trauma, all the things…

Growing up I learned that a victim mentality was how things were dealt with so when things get tough I used to resort to the same kind of past conditioning. 

I use to blame. I got upset and angry and sometimes I even resented people/circumstances.

I use to go over and over in my head why certain this keeps on happening.

I kept rehashing past circumstances… Sounds familiar?

My go-to was to withdraw and give my husband the silent treatment. 

there is something about writing all this out that makes you think… Doesn’t it?! Yikes, but again I am reminding you to be gentle with yourself)

It took me a good 3 years to unlearn these ways of coping. And yes sometimes it gets the better of me but we always have a choice. And I decided to choose better for myself. 

Below are some of the ways I supported myself during stressful periods.

• Mindful showers where I focused on conscious breathing and visualising the releasing of the thoughts that don’t serve me.

• Being open & vulnerable with my husband. This has been a game-changer for me. It is something I have ALWAYS struggled with.

• Slow, mindful, and intuitive movement before bed.

• Acknowledging my feelings and speaking to myself with compassion and grace. Encouraging the little girl in me that needs reassurance.

• I gave myself hugs

• Intimacy with my husband

• Qigong

• Crying and foot massages. Read here why foot massages are so magical

• Grounding 

• Mindfulness, meditation & daily gratitude

• Making love (Another win for me cause we all know when stressed one’s libido drop) This reiterated that what I doing to support myself is working.

• Essential oils

• Breathwork

• Yoga

• Naps with healing music (InsightTimer is my favourite for all things meditation.)

• Somatic shaking

• Asking for support (whether it is from the Universe, friends or your partner.)

• Dancing

I surrendered daily and trusted the process. Some days were harder than others BUT I always reminded myself that the Universe has and will ALWAYS look out for us. 

And so it did. We were always supported. (A great way to remember is to start a list of every time the Universe came through for you, this way you can easily look back and be reminded of how supported you are.) 

All these tools are how we integrate our healing. It didn’t happen overnight, and yes one can argue “Why do I even want to go through the process of self-healing if it’s so difficult and uncomfortable.”

And something I always come back to…

I would rather go through temporary discomfort, than permanent health (mental and physical) issues. Plagued by the past and your fears eating you slowly from the inside.

When you have firsthand experience of what generational trauma, fear, shame, guilt and regret do to a person then you’ll understand.

A personal invitation… 

When you get to know me personally or if you are one of my clients you will know one of my values is privacy and I don’t believe in sharing with strangers (social media) my personal journey.

Yes, most business coaches will tell you to share your story. But this year I am no longer subscribing to what I ‘should’ be doing but rather doing what feels best for me.

With that being said I would love to connect with you off social media. I am on Whatsapp, Voxer, and recently Telegram. 

I value deep conversations and privacy and safety for all parties involved.

I value good friendships that support each other in safe and healthy ways.

If you feel called to connect with me on either Whatsapp, Voxer or Telegram send me an email or you can DM me on Instagram.

What will you get? 

• A new friend
• A safe & genuine space to connect with someone you resonate with
• A listening ear or if needed a shoulder to cry on

Let’s walk a path together where trust, and respect is at the forefront. We all have our own journeys but why do it alone?

I look forward to connecting! And be sure to share with me what your favourite tools are.

Ways to work with me

1. Intuitive Soul Reading. Click here for more information
2. 1:1 Heal & Replenish Mentorship – Find out if this is something for you. Payment plans are available (reach out to me if you would like to discuss a way forward. 
3. Stillness Healing Circles will start again shortly.

Much love

Ings xx

PS: If you want to get started with a mindfulness practice download my FREE Heal & Replenish Mindfulness Toolbox with 10 audio and written mindfulness practices that you can implement into your daily lives. You will also get a beautiful ebook with directions as well as guidelines on using these practices with intention. Download the toolbox here.

(Please note: Online coaching/self-healing is not a licensed practice. The work I do is from lived experience. Discern for yourself what is best for your health and well-being.)